Yes, but I can also see an argument for "if it had been men what messed it up on both sides, then people would be saying that if only they'd let the women talk and bond over being women and motherhood and whatever then it would have worked".

There were women who nearly made it work (Nasreen and Amy). There were women who messed it up. There were men who messed it up, too -- what if Ambrose's father had just refused to set the drill the way she wanted it?

Equal opportunity messing up chances for peace. And trying to fix it.